Post Natal Depression
It’s real. It’s there. I don’t know why people call it baby blues…when it doesn’t feel as cute as it sounds.
Why am I talking about it? Because when my lil guy turned three months, there was an assessment done on me. ME! By the Maternal and Child Health Services. Who ever thought of checking about the mom’s wellbeing is a SAINT! It’s a questionnaire basically asking me how I was feeling at that point of time. The last being, whether I had ever thought of harming myself. What? Ram into a tree and hurt myself?
If I was really REALLY suffering from PND, I probably might. But, luckily, the only thought that came to mind is that I want to run away. Run far far far FAR away. I told my MCH Nurse that..and she laughed and laughed and laughed. She said, if all the mothers could get a nice vacation away from kids, then we wouldn’t be suffering from PND.
Anyway, when I completed the questionnaire, I scored a 10. That’s a borderline to PND. If I had scored an 11….who knows who I had to see. That’s one good thing about the support system here….they really do support your emotional needs here.
There is another assessment when the lil guy turns 6 months old. Same questionnaire, but they basically check if you’re feeling about the same or not.
Women who go through any childbirth should realise that they are not alone in feeling inadequate, alone, scared, panicky, anxious, etc. When lil babies cry..it brings out the worse in us..and we react irrationally. Although our partners are supposed to help.. it’s hard for them to understand why we feel this way. We yell at them for helping. We yell at them for not helping.
In short… talk to someone if you feel horrible. Go to parenting forums or seek help. Don’t for one second think that it’s not normal to feel this way.
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Wow. They should implement that over here. All the checkup we have after the birth of the baby is the 6-wk checkup. After that we’re on our own.
How I wish we have this type of care for mothers over here. Check-ups are usually for babies only…
do they have pre natal depression test? maybe i should take it up.
oh dear…i hope i will not be getting it with the madness i m facing now with my twins!